Really. It is the saddest day ever. In the history of days, this was the worst.
Today, my mother called me to tell me that a week ago (A WEEK AGO!) my beautiful, amazing, talented princess told her that she is picked on at school, every day. EVERY DAY. She is made fun of because she doesn’t live in a big house. She doesn’t have an iphone. She doesn’t have all of the newest electronics. She only has one Northface jacket and only 2 pairs of Ugg boots.
I get it. They are all first world problems. And, she certainly isn’t lacking in luxuries. She has an ipod touch, her very own cell phone, the previously mentioned Uggs, we have internet and cable. She has been to Disney like 4 times. We go on vacation. She dances, that costs a ton of my income. We aren’t hurting. But, in comparison to her friends, we are the poor kids on the block.
And, because she is different, they found a way to make her feel bad about it. And, they tell her how fat she is. And, how fat her mom is. And, her mom is mean and won’t let her watch certain movies. And, she generally asks permission to do anything she is unsure of. She gets good grades. She is kind and gentle and sweet. It wouldn’t even occur to her to say mean things to people. Why are these little girls saying mean things about things that she can’t control?
I’m so angry at these little girls for breaking her heart. But, I’m really mad at the parents of these little girls for teaching them that its acceptable to be mean. I am really angry that this group of people has taught their children that the value of things, possessions, stuff, is more important than people. They break her heart every day, all over things she can’t control, instead of noticing how funny she is or how kind she is or how much she loves to laugh.
I’m saddened by our society. I’m saddened that she didn’t tell me herself. I’m saddened that she endured this for a nearly the whole year before I found out. I’m just sad.
this breaks my heart 🙁 I find it’s the most amazing souls that hurt the most. Just keep loving her as much as you do and remind her how wrong they are and how fabulous she is. Someone told me once, when I was in a similar situation, “we only make fun of people we’re jealous of” and not only has that helped me when people have been mean but, more so, it’s helped me not to be mean to others by taking the moment to think “what is it that I might be jealous of”. In your princess’ case I bet it’s the fact that things are just things… And she had what’s truly important, your love and care (because it’s a good thing she can’t watch any movie she wants! She’s only a kid once, don’t rush it), your time and commitment, your shared memories and vacations, her activities and, I hope, her confidence and beauty- inside and out. Hang in there, momma. Keep reminding her. Let your voice ring louder and truer than theirs. Xoox!!